Every once in a while my hubby and I we go out for movies and/or dinner. Just the two of us. During these rare moments, we talk about how things change for us since we started dating. Happy days of singledom and the perks of married life.
Yesterday, while planning for our date night something happened and made me irritated. I know it’s just a little thing and I could have let it go, but I didn’t. I told him what are my issues and why I had that episode and why I felt what I feel. Take note of the “I”. It’s all about me and my raging emotions.
Honestly, as much as I want to – I really don’t want to argue. Last night, I snapped out of it. Just like that. I cannot accept the explanation he gave me over what we are arguing about. There are times in our relationships that we tend to be unforgiving. When instead of being loving and kind, we opt to lash out.Instead of being understanding, we were consumed by our negative emotions. Human nature. We want to hurt rather than communicate and usually it is already too late to realize the damage done.I learned my lesson when I was still young and dating. I am the type of person who faces issues head-on. If I have a problem with you I will drag you to the battlefield. Which damaged a lot of relationships that I had. I am not really the forgiving type (dark times of my life). So I learned to choose my battles. I don’t want to argue I don’t want to damage my relationship again. Right now I choose to brushed off tiny issues and I try to be understanding.
I really don’t like the feeling after this kind of situation. It’s a pain in the heart and back. Moments like this I give myself a time-out. 10-15 minutes to clear my head and my heart. After I digested the words I let out, I sent him a message and told him that I understand his point. It’s just that there are other factors that affected me, hence, my reaction.
Have you experience moments like these in your married life? Little issues that were blown into huge proportions? How did you handle it? What did you do to resolve the problem?