I am a working mom – meaning I am at work from 9am to 6pm 5 days a week. I spent roughly 4 hours at home before bedtime and need to squeeze in 2-hour bonding time with our little one. Exhausting? Sometimes. But to be a working mom is a personal choice so I am not complaining.
When our daughter was born – we see to it that weekends and free time will be dedicated to her. That’s an order. No need to think about it. No need to compromise and sacrifice. As an expat – I know a lot of stories that parents left their kids at their home countries so that they can work and provide better – but with us, we made a deliberate choice not to do that (yet). We want to be with our kid as she grows up – foundation years are crucial. Savings is not an issue. Expenses is an issue but it’s part of the set-up that we chose.
So how do we manage my time with our little one? Where do I find time to create those memories that I talked about in my previous posts? Well, here’s a routine that we usually have. All of the activities during weekends are all about our daughter.
Step one – we plan ahead of time. The activities that we do is not just a spur of the moment.
Step two – we execute. No tantrums can hinder this. Being sick that day is not an excuse.
Step three – seize the day :)
Here’s a glimpse of our weekends :
Thursday night: After office hours we go out as a family – malls or parks. Then we go home, sleep and that’s it. We usually let her sleep with us during weekends.
Friday: Eat breakfast together. Then we write or read her books – this is her practice for the big school. There are instances that Fridays are for her to review us about what she learned during the weekdays. Thanks to her grandma for guiding her these days. Bubble bath before lunch time is part of the routine – this is my time to tidy up our room, fix our bed and prepare for the next activity.
We usually do baking but since we don’t have an oven right now, we’re into painting and clay molding. We also have singing and dancing sessions. You might think that we are having a busy Friday right? But you have to consider that my daughter is just three. There are idle moments too – so we just have siesta and then snacks and after dinner we have our movie time.
Saturday : We go to the grocery, do our errands then walk around the mall. If we are not yet tired we pass by parks for her to play with her scooter. We just make sure that she is also enjoying the activities that we’re doing. This is also the time that we clean our home and make sure that she is participating – starting her young to do household chores.
Juggling between work and family time is not easy. That’s the truth but there’s always a work around. This is the routine that we follow at home. So far, I can say that it is effective because our little girl is always looking forward weekends and even requested me not to go to work at all. She got no idea how tempted I am. What works for us might not work for you. But this is how we make memories with our little one and this is one of the many ways that we do to build a strong relationship with our daughter.
What about you? How do you manage your time with your kids? Do you believe in family time?
Let me know your thoughts.