#MomGoals

Motherhood – changes your perspective in general – your taste in food, music, color and even the TV programs that your binging on every weekend (that is..if you have time). Your Pinterest boards changed from Fashion to Kids and Parenting. Family becomes the vital part of motherhood. More often than not, mothers tend to prioritize family over themselves. So for today I want to share my list of #MomGoals that I wrote. To each her own. Goal setting can be a helpful, exciting, and a reinvigorating practice for mothers like us and women in general. :)

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#MomGoals for Health and Beauty

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  • Eat healthy – watch what you eat and be wary of what it will do to your body.
  • Exercise even when you’re at home. You don’t have to be inside a gym to work -out, there are tons of exercises that we can always follow online.
  • Take care of your skin, nails and hair. Treat yourself with creams, lotions and vitamins even essential oils that are good for our body. The good thing about essential oils is that it is usually cost-effective and the results are amazing.
  • Be your best fresh self.
  • Smile and be positive.

#MomGoals for Career and Self-Development

  • Read. There are lots of benefits when you develop the habit of reading. One of the advantages is, it increases our vocabulary and makes us a lot more articulate. PLUS: It melts away stress.
  • Write a blog – like this. Write for yourself – the audience will come sooner or later. From time to time we need to look for a way to express ourselves I know other moms who paint or compose songs or cook and bake as a way of self expression.
  • Try something new – whether a new restaurant, movie genre, recipe or even a fashion trend. Trying something new makes you know yourself more and it helps you widen the range of your choices too.
  • Learn something technical.This one… is in my bucket list – and I am proud to say that I learned and I am still putting it into practice. :) Not because you already have a family to tend to means you’re no longer allowed to learn things.

#MomGoals Family and Relationships

  • Break that techie habit. Hurray! I am (we) on it. Since we are doing our best to limit Ellie’s exposure and use of gadgets ,we also limit ourselves in using gadgets whenever we are at home or with family.
  • Say I LOVE YOU. Expressing love and care to our family members is a must. It exudes positive vibes at home and nourish relationships 100% of the time :)
  • Cook and/or bake for them.
  • Family time = quality time. Don’t go out for dinners or arcade time just for the sake of having one. Make sure that we are giving a quality bonding with them.
  • Find a good family activity that everyone will enjoy. :)

Reading my thoughts here are very easy – doing and incorporating these with our daily routine is a different story. Although we are setting goals that we want to accomplish – dedication and focus is needed 100% of the time. The challenge is how are we going to overcome the hurdles that might get in our way to do it.

What are your #MomGoals?

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love x couple habits x marriage

For almost four years of togetherness, Tags and I are still adjusting and amazingly still learning a lot of new things about each other. Through time we were able to discover tiny details about each other – sometimes we didn’t even know about it ourselves not until one of us notices (Johari’s window ?) and say something about it.  Like any other relationships we went through a lot of challenges and difficulties in the beginning of our journey together and we are surviving *high five*…

Through time we were able to have our own couple dynamics that until now we were able to practice. I am happy to share the same thoughts and goals with my husband. Although we are still far from the plans that we have, I can say that there’s progress year after year.

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Communication

We never lose communication. Calling each other during break time. Updating each other about our day, plans, meetings and whereabouts. We don’t have the opportunity to miss each other. For us having a good line of communication is the best way to work on our marriage. If we have problems and issues we say it. We know that keeping it will cause more damage so instead talk about it and come up with a solution. 

Don’t forget occasions.  

I am a self-confessed clingy, cheesy and sentimental person. Every occasion counts. Birthdays. Anniversary as bf/gf. Engagement. Anniversary as husband and wife and the list goes on. Like what I always say – we don’t have to splurge on lavish gifts and expensive dinner dates. Tags never missed a month – flowers and letters – as promised. Acknowledging life’s special moments is more than enough. You just have to show and tell your partner that you remembered. 

Family first.

Our family is our priority. We always see to it that we put our family first over anything else. Now that we have our kid – we want her to grow in an environment wherein family should always be on top. I often tell Tags that he can go out with his friends from time to time but he always choose to be with us. His reason is very simple – he is at work for long hours and his time with us is very limited so he’d rather stay with us than spend his free time with his friends. I am glad that he got this mind set and that I don’t have to remind him of his priorities because he already know. 

Managing Finances.

Money. Usually caused trouble in many families, either too much or lack of it. From the beginning of our relationship this was already cleared – what’s his is mine and what’s mine is mine… nope…just kidding. I told  him that I didn’t marry him for money… I can earn my own money… I just need his loyalty haha!  We already sort it out. All of our expenses – weekly, monthly and yearly are accounted for. I am his wife. I need to help him although he is the one providing for us. Major expenses are his responsibilities. Minor things I am handling. Usually the minor things are the wants. When it comes to managing the  finances I am responsible for it – savings included.

Take care of yourself.

Some might say that having a good heart is what matters. Yes..they are right!I believe in that too… BUT Physical attraction will always be a factor. No matter how hard they try to say that it does not matter – IT MATTERS. Taking care of yourself is a must… specially if you’re married. My mom told me, that now that I have my own family I have to improve myself more and see to it that the attraction is still there. This advice is not just for wives but for husbands too. Not because you’re already married you’re just going to let go of yourself. Our spouses even without saying a word will always be proud to be seen with someone presentable. So…

Care and Support

Don’t make the person you love feel alone specially when you’re there. Aside from taking care of yourself – you have to nurture your spouse and kids welfare too. I encourage Tags to join different extracurricular activities – chorale is one. I want him to still develop as an individual. Tags is very supportive of me too. When I told him that I want to try baking – he bought me – baking equipment, ingredients and things needed (and not needed) for baking – and whatever it is that I made for him… he eats it too. :) Every morning before going to work Tags prepares a sandwich for me and I really appreciate that gesture.There are tons of ways that we can give care and show support to our spouses. Little things matter.

To each his own. I just shared some details of the things we do for each other to nourish our relationship as husband and wife. Each couple have their own dynamics that works for them and  there’s no right or wrong way.

The main goal is to enrich our marriage and spread the love.

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My raging emotions and date night.

Every once in a while my hubby and I we go out for movies and/or dinner. Just the two of us. During these rare moments, we talk about how things change for us since we started dating. Happy days of singledom and the perks of married life.

Yesterday, while planning for our date night something happened and made me irritated. I know it’s just a little thing and I could have let it go, but I didn’t. I told him what are my issues and why I had that episode and why I felt what I feel. Take note of the “I”. It’s all about me and my raging emotions.

Honestly, as much as I want to – I really don’t want to argue. Last night, I snapped out of it. Just like that. I cannot accept the explanation he gave me over what we are arguing about. There are times in our relationships that we tend to be unforgiving. When instead of being loving and kind, we opt to lash out.Instead of being understanding, we were consumed by our negative emotions. Human nature. We want to hurt rather than communicate and usually it is already too late to realize the damage done.I learned my lesson when I was still young and dating. I am the type of person who faces issues head-on. If I have a problem with you I will drag you to the battlefield. Which damaged a lot of relationships that I had. I am not really the forgiving type (dark times of my life). So I learned to choose my battles. I don’t want to argue I don’t want to damage my relationship again. Right now I choose to brushed off tiny issues and I try to be understanding.

I really don’t like the feeling after this kind of situation. It’s a pain in the heart and back. Moments like this I give myself a time-out. 10-15 minutes to clear my head and my heart. After I digested the words I let out, I sent him a message and told him that I understand his point. It’s just that there are other factors that affected me, hence, my reaction.

Have you experience moments like these in your married life? Little issues that were blown into huge proportions? How did you handle it? What did you do to resolve the problem?

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joyeux anniversaire mon amour

Days and years with you will always be happy. Even if we are fighting. Even if we constantly have misunderstandings. Even if we are silent or cranky. Even if we don’t have money and not enough sleep. Our days we’ll always be ours – like how we conquer every day with dance steps. Or with a cup of coffee and laughter or a bottle of beer and a bag of nacho chips.

Our story has its twists but it is one for the books. I am thankful to have you as my partner in life and thank you for understanding that I can go psycho most of the time. Thank you for believing that I can still do good things and for appreciating my cooking and baking and (out of the blue) dance moves that’s beyond my control. You’re a good dad to Ellie and I admire you on how you take care of us and put us first before anything else.

Years with you …and challenges are still raining upon us – but it is moulding us to be better. A better husband. A better wife. Better parents. Things may not always go the way we imagined it to be but it will, eventually,hopefully. We have days ahead of us – I am not sure if they will be good or bad – but I will be here… for us.. no matter what.

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Joyeux anniversaire mon amour!

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Pieces of advice to those younger than me :)

2016 – I survived the challenges of being a working mom and a wife and other responsibilities in between that. I don’t know what 2017 will be for me and for my family but I am on high hopes and prayers that it will be filled with laughter and blessings.  Ever since I got married and Ellie was born, a lot of things happened and changed. Most of them I am still getting used to and some I need to have major adjustments.

I am 31.As I look back, I already achieved majority of the items listed on my bucket list. I just realized that since I did some of it already, there are items on list that I can no longer do.So while you are still young and single, maybe you can pick something from the list of advices below. These things are based on my experiences and my regrets and my life goals.

1)Don’t wait for tomorrow to work on your plans. Do it while you still have the energy to do so. Procrastination sometimes help – but take note on the word “sometimes”.

2)Travel. I am working overseas but still I wasn’t able to do this a lot. I don’t know but I think this was not really my priority during my younger years. My mistake.

3)Collect experiences. Experiences are priceless (some might cost a lot.. but still…) Once you did something like sky diving or swimming with whales or mountain trekking it will be always be part of yourself and nobody can take that from you.

4)Read a lot of books. It can help you improve your thoughts,it can bring new ideas and it can improve your vocabulary and grammar. It will help you a lot.

5)Focus on developing your talents. Your talents can be your career. It can be your stepping stone to earning money or simply getting what you want.

6)Find a job that you will enjoy-while you are still young, you can still explore. Salary might be not as much but if you love what you’re doing sooner or later you will get the pay that you deserve.

7) Explore different hobbies. Try baking – cooking – painting or photography :) It will give you things to do during your free time. Find activities worth doing rather than binge watching tv series. Trust me when you get older and your knees and hands are no longer as powerful as they were you’ll have a lot of time to watch TV series or just sit around or lie somewhere.

8)Write your thoughts. 

9)Save money. Remember the fable, The Ant and the Grasshopper? Saving for the rainy days matters.You will never know when the rain will begin to pour, so better be ready rather than caught unaware. Money matters and that’s the truth.

10)Find the balance between personal and social life and technology. Spend time with your family, your siblings, colleagues and friends. Social life is not social media. Spend at least a day without mobile phones or Facebook and snapchat or at least don’t look or avoid checking your tablets and mobile phones when you’re with them. It really makes a difference.

I am not even close to perfection. I still don’t have “it” together. I am still working on improving different facets of my life that sometimes I don’t have a single clue of where should I begin. Sometimes I am still wondering if I am still young for this? OR I am too late to do it? It confuses me a lot but I am grateful that I still have goals to focus on and like what everybody says…better late than never.

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